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Signs that My Grief is Still Raw

Signs that My Grief is Still Raw

*Some of these are code names for real people (my high school history teacher is really my high school history teacher). My sister is probably the...
My (Dead) Sister Triggers

My (Dead) Sister Triggers

   This probably reads to you like how my 10th-grade yearbook inscriptions read to me. A list of scrawled inside jokes that have no meaning. T...
Death Anniversaries Part II: How We Supported Ourselves

Death Anniversaries Part II: How We Supported Ourselves

On a whim, I signed up for a grief retreat hosted by Modern Loss. I didn’t think much about it at the time, I just knew that I loved Modern Loss (b...
Death Anniversaries Part 1: How To Be Supportive

Death Anniversaries Part 1: How To Be Supportive

The anniversaries of my sister’s (8/9/17) and father’s (2/6/04) deaths are the two most impactful days of my life. It’s customary to check in with ...
This time last year

This time last year

I constantly think about what was happening at this time last year.  There are big moments - like in November I remembered that at that time the y...
Angrief

Angrief

This is angrief - the unique version of anger that you find in the depths of your grief. I am really angry that my sister died, and sometimes I wi...
My daily thoughts

My daily thoughts

I posted this series on instagram the other day, but wanted to share it here too. Grief is exhausting, and part of it is due to the enormous amount...
Making a List - How the Bereaved Keep Score

Making a List - How the Bereaved Keep Score

There is a grief underbelly: a dark, cold place swirling with thoughts that many grievers have but are too ashamed to admit. They’re usually only v...
How we survived the holidays

How we survived the holidays

Members of my grief group began talking about the holidays in October. Though I was new to the group, I had actually already made plans for my fami...