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Final Words

Final Words

This is the second part in a short series on the end of my dad's life. For part one, click here.    Late January, 2004 My dad's room is dim. The li...
My Dad's Driver

My Dad's Driver

December | 2003 The gravel crunches after I shift to drive and we slowly begin the descent down our driveway. The roles are reversed. Instead of my...
Talking with Children about Death and Dying

Talking with Children about Death and Dying

This is part II of a series in honor of Children’s Grief Awareness Day. Part I, on helping children grieve with remembrance books, may be found h...
Helping Children Grieve with Remembrance Books

Helping Children Grieve with Remembrance Books

This post is sponsored by Pinhole Press. Thank you for considering brands that support Here For You. This Thursday, November 15th, marks Childre...
Signs that My Grief is Still Raw

Signs that My Grief is Still Raw

*Some of these are code names for real people (my high school history teacher is really my high school history teacher). My sister is probably the...
My (Dead) Sister Triggers

My (Dead) Sister Triggers

   This probably reads to you like how my 10th-grade yearbook inscriptions read to me. A list of scrawled inside jokes that have no meaning. T...
Anatomy of a Condolence Text

Anatomy of a Condolence Text

Helpful facts: My older sister, Alison, died unexpectedly on August 9, 2017. On the morning of August 10th, I sent an email and made a social ...
Death Anniversaries Part II: How We Supported Ourselves

Death Anniversaries Part II: How We Supported Ourselves

On a whim, I signed up for a grief retreat hosted by Modern Loss. I didn’t think much about it at the time, I just knew that I loved Modern Loss (b...
Death Anniversaries Part 1: How To Be Supportive

Death Anniversaries Part 1: How To Be Supportive

The anniversaries of my sister’s (8/9/17) and father’s (2/6/04) deaths are the two most impactful days of my life. It’s customary to check in with ...
Suicide & Mental Health

Suicide & Mental Health

Grief is complicated and difficult. To be a family member or friend of someone who lost their life by suicide adds an additional level of complexi...
Failure to Communicate

Failure to Communicate

The miscommunication of grief is kind of like this hug between my nephew and my daughter. Good, heartfelt intentions, but an uncomfortable and pain...
Where to turn for comfort and support

Where to turn for comfort and support

 Updated: December 3, 2018 When you are recently diagnosed or bereaved, people are frantic to help you solve your problem. This is well-intentioned...