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Anatomy of a Condolence Text

Anatomy of a Condolence Text

Helpful facts: My older sister, Alison, died unexpectedly on August 9, 2017. On the morning of August 10th, I sent an email and made a social ...
Death Anniversaries Part II: How We Supported Ourselves

Death Anniversaries Part II: How We Supported Ourselves

On a whim, I signed up for a grief retreat hosted by Modern Loss. I didn’t think much about it at the time, I just knew that I loved Modern Loss (b...
Death Anniversaries Part 1: How To Be Supportive

Death Anniversaries Part 1: How To Be Supportive

The anniversaries of my sister’s (8/9/17) and father’s (2/6/04) deaths are the two most impactful days of my life. It’s customary to check in with ...
Suicide & Mental Health

Suicide & Mental Health

Grief is complicated and difficult. To be a family member or friend of someone who lost their life by suicide adds an additional level of complexi...
Failure to Communicate

Failure to Communicate

The miscommunication of grief is kind of like this hug between my nephew and my daughter. Good, heartfelt intentions, but an uncomfortable and pain...
Where to turn for comfort and support

Where to turn for comfort and support

Updated: October 1, 2018 When you are recently diagnosed or bereaved, people are frantic to help you solve your problem. This is well-intentioned b...
Anxiety and Illness

Anxiety and Illness

Earlier this summer I posted on Instagram  that it was my dad’s birthday. I honestly haven’t been thinking a lot about my dad - my head and heart a...
This time last year

This time last year

I constantly think about what was happening at this time last year.  There are big moments - like in November I remembered that at that time the y...
Angrief

Angrief

This is angrief - the unique version of anger that you find in the depths of your grief. I am really angry that my sister died, and sometimes I wi...
My daily thoughts

My daily thoughts

I posted this series on instagram the other day, but wanted to share it here too. Grief is exhausting, and part of it is due to the enormous amount...
Stop asking, “how are you?”

Stop asking, “how are you?”

I hate it when someone asks me, “how are you?” Actually, I don’t really mind the question when someone I don’t know asks. I recognize it for what i...
Thank you cards and why I don’t write them (anymore)

Thank you cards and why I don’t write them (anymore)

I come from a long line of fastidious thank you card writers. My grandmother once questioned me about why my husband didn’t write her a thank you c...