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10ft Universal Charger with USB Wall Adaptor
$20.00
10ft Universal Charger with USB Wall Adaptor
10ft Universal Charger with USB Wall Adaptor
$20.00For anyone with limited mobility at home or in the hospital, this 10ft Univeral Charger will keep their devices powered up and close at hand. The charging cable has three ports - Micro USB, Lightning, and Type C, so it is friendly for Apple and Android devices.
The blue cable will also be easy to see among bedsheets and blankets. Includes a 12V USB wall adaptor.
Bundled together in a cotton drawstring bag.
A Beginner's Guide to Navigating Grief Booklet
$4.00
A Beginner's Guide to Navigating Grief Booklet
A Beginner's Guide to Navigating Grief Booklet
$4.00
Brought to you by the team at What's Your Grief — two grief counselors who run one of the most helpful grief websites.
Although there are no directions, checklists, or black-and-white answers to grief, a general understanding of what grief is, what it isn’t, what’s typical and expected, and what can help provide grieving people with a sense of normalcy, hope, and encouragement.
In this 18-page booklet, they outline the concepts they feel are most helpful for grievers to understand as they cope with their losses.
Topics discussed in this booklet include:
- General truths about grief
- Types of grief
- Secondary loss
- Grief theory
- Tips for coping with grief
A Little Something Card
$5.00
A Little Something Card
A Little Something Card
$5.00
Card text reads: A little something to let you know I'm thinking of you!
- Blank inside
- A2 size (4.25" x 5.5") card and envelope
- Printed in the USA on heavyweight matte stock
Card by 5 Dot Post
Always a Sibling
$27.00
Always a Sibling
Always a Sibling
$27.00After her brother was killed by a suicide bomber in Afghanistan, Annie Sklaver Orenstein was heartbroken and unmoored. Standing in the grief section of her local bookstore, she searched for guides on how to work through her grief as a mourning sibling—and found nothing. More than 4 million American adults each year will lose a sibling, yet there isn't a modern resource guide available that speaks directly to this type of grief that at times can be overshadowed by grieving parents and spouses and made even more difficult by the complexities of sibling dynamics.
In Always a Sibling, Annie uses her own story and those of others to create the empathic, thoughtful, practical resource that she sought. Divided into three sections: With, Without, and Within, it creates a framework that enables the reader to ground themselves in order to process and validate this often overlooked grief. Annie guides readers to capture the memories and emotions of life with their now deceased sibling, then moves to addressing the grieving process in detail as they navigate life without them. Ultimately, readers will find ways to experience their sibling's presence within themselves and acknowledge their legacy.
With practical strategies rooted in proven grief processing techniques, trauma recovery, and psychoanalysis, Always A Sibling truly supports mourners through the unique experience of sibling loss.
An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination
$16.00
An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination
An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination
$16.00
This book is about what happened next. In her ninth month of pregnancy, she learned that her baby boy had died. How do you deal with and recover from this kind of loss? Of course, you don't — but you go on. And if you have ever experienced loss or love someone who has, the company of this remarkable book will help you go on.
With humor and warmth and unfailing generosity, McCracken considers the nature of love and grief. She opens her heart and leaves all of ours the richer for it.
Anticipatory Grief: A Guide to Coping with Impending Loss
$4.00
Anticipatory Grief: A Guide to Coping with Impending Loss
Anticipatory Grief: A Guide to Coping with Impending Loss
$4.00
A common myth about grief is that it always follows death. Most people don’t realize that once death is anticipated, even if it’s just a possibility, it is natural to begin grieving.
This 12-page booklet, What's Your Grief outlines important concepts to know as a person navigates the complicated and overwhelming experience of anticipatory grief.
Topics discussed in this resource include:
- General truths about grief
- Understanding anticipatory grief
- Grieving during a loved one’s illness
- Caregiver burnout
- Coping during a loved one’s illness
- Coping after a death
Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief
$18.00
Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief
Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief
$18.00
Significant loss and unresolved grief are primary underpinnings of anxiety, something that grief expert Claire Bidwell Smith discovered in her own life and in her practice with her therapy clients. Now, using research and real-life stories, Smith breaks down the physiology of anxiety, giving you a concrete foundation of understanding in order to help you heal.
With concrete tools and coping strategies for panic attacks, getting a handle on anxious thoughts, and more, Smith bridges these two emotions in a way that is deeply empathetic and eminently practical.
Aromatherapy Dough
$15.00
Aromatherapy Dough
Aromatherapy Dough
$15.00Análú (ahn-a-loo) thinking putty is a handmade therapy dough and scented putty that is geared towards adults (but can be used by kids) to help relax, revive, and stimulate both the mind and body. Made with 100% natural ingredients
- Análú is colored with 100% natural fruit and vegetable extracts
- All ingredients are listed on the side of each jar, as we believe in transparency as a company
- Blended with lavender pure essential oil and vegetable pigments to create a calming, fragrant, tactile experience
- Inhale slowly, exhale completely and keep restless hands busy
Sampler case includes three jars of peppermint, lavender and lemon scented dough.
This dough is made with wheat flour and contains gluten
Made by eco-kids.
As Time Passes: Coping with the anniversary of a loved one's death
$3.00
As Time Passes: Coping with the anniversary of a loved one's death
As Time Passes: Coping with the anniversary of a loved one's death
$3.00
One of the top recommendations to people, professionals, and organizations wishing to support someone who’s grieving is to remember to check-in around the anniversary of the loved one’s death. What's Your Grief created this resource with this intention in mind.
In this four-panel accordion fold brochure, we discuss:
- The significance of the year-mark of a loved one’s death
- Communicating with family and friends about the day
- Planning how you will cope with the day
- Ideas for coping and memorialization
Awkward Sympathy Card
$5.00
Awkward Sympathy Card
Awkward Sympathy Card
$5.00
Card text reads: Well, this just sucks. I wish I had a better way to say it, but my brain feels totally stuck right now. But I just want you to know that even though I might not always have exactly the right words, you will always have me. I'm not going anywhere. So I hope you're cool with that. Because I love you.
- Blank inside
- A2 size (4.25" x 5.5") card and envelope
- Printed in the USA on heavyweight matte stock
Card by Em & Friends
Bamboo Loofah Soap
$9.00
Bamboo Loofah Soap
Bamboo Loofah Soap
$9.00This fresh-scented soap is pure sunshine. The bamboo’s green, floral undertones couple wonderfully with the grapefruit’s citrusy bounce. Because this soap bar is lovingly handmade by Maggie Ann Soap Company, there will be color and size variations with each batch.
INGREDIENTS
Water, Olive Oil, Coconut Oil, Organic Sustainable Palm Oil, Sodium Hydroxide, Sweet Almond Oil, Hempseed Oil, Fair Trade Shea Butter, Fragrance Oil, Castor Oil, Loofah, Pigments/Mica
Bamboo Paper Towels
$4.50
Bamboo Paper Towels
Bamboo Paper Towels
$4.50A spare roll of paper towels is always useful. The recipient can put these to use right away or store them under the sink to use in the future. Anything to prevent a trip to the store is a good thing!
Regular paper towels are made from tree fibers - what the industry calls virgin pulp. Wood fibers are long so they can be loosely woven. This makes for a fluffy, absorbent product (like a sponge) but at the expense of our forest ecosystems 😞.
Disposable bamboo paper towels are strong, absorbent, and (most importantly) a sustainable option for the majority of your household clean-up + wipe-down needs.
- FSC®certified, 100% bamboo fibers
- 90 select-a-size sheets per roll
- 100% bamboo core
- 2-ply and embossed texture for extra strength
- No inks, dyes, or scents
- BPA-free & hypoallergenic
- Plastic-free packaging
- Compostable and biodegradable
Bamboo Scrubber
$5.00
Bamboo Scrubber
Bamboo Scrubber
$5.00
This earth friendly pot scrubber easily tackles all messy dish clean-ups with its coarse plant-derived sisal bristles. Safe for non-stick pans.
The scrubber is completely compostable. Made from a combination of bamboo, coconut and sisal fibers.
By Bamboo Switch.
Bamboo Soap Deck
$6.00
Bamboo Soap Deck
Bamboo Soap Deck
$6.00This bamboo soap deck will extend the life of your soap bars. Made from 100% bamboo and 100% compostable.
By Bamboo Switch.
Bamboo Toilet Paper
$3.50
Bamboo Toilet Paper
Bamboo Toilet Paper
$3.50- FSC®certified, 100% bamboo fibers
- 360 tree-free sheets per roll
- 3-ply and embossed texture for extra strength
- No inks, dyes, or scents
- BPA-free & hypoallergenic
- Plastic-free packaging
- Septic safe and biodegradable
Bath Fizzies
$14.00
Bath Fizzies
Bath Fizzies
$14.00These effervescent eggs are all natural and the perfect moisturizing addition to the bath.
Scented with lavender essential oil and containing cocoa & shea butters, they will fizz and disperse when dropped into bath water and delight you with extra enjoyment while soaking.
Bath Sea Sponge
$16.00
Bath Sea Sponge
Bath Sea Sponge
$16.00All natural sea sponges are a luxurious and eco-friendly upgrade to plastic shower puffs. A gentler way to get clean, these sea sponges are soft and safe enough to use on a baby.
Sustainably sourced from the Caribbean, we selected the biodegradable "Wool" variety of sponge for its soft feel and durability as well as antibacterial and anti-fungal properties. Eco-friendly + Biodegradable. Wool sponges are extremely absorbent and very soft, producing a rich, creamy lather.
Size: 4.5-5"
Bath Soak
$12.00
Bath Soak
Bath Soak
$12.00A soothing and fragrant bath soak.
Wildflowers ingredients: European sea salt, dendritic salt, rosa canina (pink rose petals), jasminum officinale (jasmine), centaurea cyanus (cornflower), phthalate-free fragrance
Milk + Honey ingredients: baking soda, dendritic salt, goat milk, lactose, honey powder, oats, phthalate-free fragrance
SIZE: 2 oz. (small) and 16 oz (large)
Made by Nectar Republic in Bel Aire, KS
Bath Tea
$12.00
Bath Tea
Bath Tea
$12.00Soothing Bath Tea. Add to a warm bath for soothing aches and sore muscles, relieving tension, and lifting stress. This is a great option for a post-partum ritual for soothing the body and mind. Also, a wonderful addition to children's baths as it adds essential nutrients to otherwise drying waters.
Use: Add a single tea pouch to a warm bath and let the herbs steep.
Ingredients: Rose petals, lavender buds, chamomile buds, calendula petals.
4oz | Made by Among the Flowers in Placerville, CA
Beard & Body Salve
$14.00
Beard & Body Salve
Beard & Body Salve
$14.00
This skin softening aftershave salve contains organic olive oil, homegrown, organic calendula, balsam and fir essential oils.
The calendula-infused organic olive oil makes for the perfect skin-softening balm for just about anywhere that needs extra repair. Natural beeswax makes for a long-lasting moisturizer.
Salve by Orchard Farm Soap.
Beard Balm
$18.00
Beard Balm
Beard Balm
$18.00Style and condition facial hair with this tidy tin of beard balm.
Benefits:
- Creates a dynamic definition and separation
- Packaged in infinitely recyclable aluminum to protect ingredient integrity
- Cruelty-Free
- No animal testing
Ingredients: Shea butter, beeswax, apricot oil, evergreen oil, cocoa butter
Net Wt: 1.69 oz (48 g)
Made by Lovett Sundries in Pittsburgh, PA
Beard Oil
$28.00
Beard Oil
Beard Oil
$28.00This Beard Oil contains a blend of quick-absorbing base oils and beneficial essential oils to not only keep the beard under control but more importantly to care for the skin under the beard. 2 fl oz.
Use: Smooth a few drops over a clean beard and face and massage in well.
Made by Lovett Sundries in Pittsburgh, PA
Beeswax Candle-Making Kit
$9.00
Beeswax Candle-Making Kit
Beeswax Candle-Making Kit
$9.00
Candle lighting is often used as part of a moment of remembrance or an on going ritual.
Sweet-smelling all-natural beeswax candles are easy to make and require no melted wax or special molds. This eco-kids kit contains everything you will need to make seven 4" candles. These candles offer a bright, steady flame.
Burn time approx 1.5 hours.
Made by eco-kids
Beeswax Crayons
$9.00
Beeswax Crayons
Beeswax Crayons
$9.00Eight vibrant natural beeswax crayons are non-toxic, safe, and packed in a reusable cardboard tube. Their triangle shape won’t roll off the table!
Beeswax Lip Balm
$8.00
Beeswax Lip Balm
Beeswax Lip Balm
$8.00
Made with safe ingredients and ethically harvested beeswax, Bee Balm Co is a great alternative to plastic-heavy lip balms.
Tubes are 0.4 oz (twice the volume of a standard lip balm tube), so they last longer and are comfortable to hold.
The tube and label are both 100% compostable.
Three varieties:
Lemon Lavender — Fresh and springy. Fragrant lavender and citrus combine in a bright, floral scent.
Cedar Vanilla — Woodsy cedar combines with warm vanilla notes for a truly unique scent.
Peppermint — Classic and perfect
Made by Bee Balm Company in Woburn, MA
Bess Kalb Care Package
$90.00
Bess Kalb Care Package
Bess Kalb Care Package
$90.00What's inside:
- Bess' heartfelt memoir, Nobody Will Tell You This But Me, about her strong-willed grandmother, Bobby Bell, and four generations of indomitable women. Through Bobby's words, it blends family lore and secrets with humor and poignancy. A celebration of the bond between a grandmother and granddaughter.
- While one might not think of a Hedgehog brooch first for their creative project, it is a wonderful tribute to a grandparent figure. When you're grappling with profound emotional pain, taking a creative break can offer a much-needed respite from the overwhelming emotions. Each kit includes complete materials and instructions suitable for a beginner.
- The care package also includes a coconut milk hand mask, a soothing lavender bath bomb, and a fragrant soy wax candle to create a tranquil evening at home. Paired with a warm cup of tea and some delicious nuts, it's a combination that's bound to be appreciated.
Birth-Adoption Care Package
$120.25
Birth-Adoption Care Package
Birth-Adoption Care Package
$120.25The Birth/Adoption Care Package offers the recipient comfort and support with a mixture of thoughtful and useful gifts. Each included item is purposefully chosen to support babies and parents and make life a little easier during a big life transition.
- Baby stuffed animal
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Potager organic soap
- Bamboo soap deck
- Bath tea
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Organic tea sampler
- Snack bars
- Kitchen trash bags
- Toilet paper (4 pack)
- Cutlery
- Compostable plates
- Reusable freezer bags and labeling marker
- Personalized message of your choosing
- Gift Packaging
- Follow Up Card (sent 6-8 weeks after package delivery)
Birth-Adoption Care Package - Essentials
$56.00
Birth-Adoption Care Package - Essentials
Birth-Adoption Care Package - Essentials
$56.00The Birth/Adoption Care Package - Essentials offers the recipient comfort and support with a mixture of thoughtful and useful gifts. Each included item is purposefully chosen to support babies and parents and make life a little easier during a big life transition.
- Organic tea sampler
- Baby stuffed animal
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Potager organic soap
- Personalized message of your choosing
- Gift Packaging
- Follow Up Card (sent 6-8 weeks after package delivery)
If you'd like to customize your own care package, visit our box builder.
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Black Widow
$11.00
Black Widow
Black Widow
$11.00Black Widow: A Sad-Funny Journey Through Grief for People Who Normally Avoid Books with Words Like "Journey" in the Title by Leslie Gray Streeter
Leslie Gray Streeter is not cut out for widowhood. She's not ready for hushed rooms and pitying looks. She is not ready to stand graveside, dabbing her eyes in a classy black hat. If she had her way she'd wear her favorite curve-hugging leopard print dress to Scott's funeral; he loved her in that dress! But, here she is, having lost her soulmate to a sudden heart attack, totally unsure of how to navigate her new widow lifestyle. ("New widow lifestyle." Sounds like something you'd find products for on daytime TV, like comfy tracksuits and compression socks. Wait, is a widow even allowed to make jokes?)
Looking at widowhood through the prism of race, mixed marriage, and aging, Black Widow redefines the stages of grief, from coffin shopping to day-drinking, to being a grown-ass woman crying for your mommy, to breaking up and making up with God, to facing the fact that life goes on even after the death of the person you were supposed to live it with. While she stumbles toward an uncertain future as a single mother raising a baby with her own widowed mother (plot twist!), Leslie looks back on her love story with Scott, recounting their journey through racism, religious differences, and persistent confusion about what kugel is. Will she find the strength to finish the most important thing that she and Scott started?
Tender, true, and endearingly hilarious, Black Widow is a story about the power of love, and how the only guidebook for recovery is the one you write yourself.
Product details
- Publisher: Little, Brown and Company (March 10, 2020)
- Language: English
- Hardcover: 272 pages
- ISBN-13: 978-0316490719
- Item Weight: 13.4 ounces
- Dimensions: 5.9 x 1.2 x 8.55 inches
*Your book copy might have a publisher's mark on the top or bottom — a black line or dot to indicate that it was a surplus copy. Your book is still new and unread. If you have any questions, please contact us.
Blank Bear and Balloons Card
$5.00
Blank Bear and Balloons Card
Blank Bear and Balloons Card
$5.00- Bear holding colorful balloons. Art by Sandra Connelly
- Blank interior
- Heavyweight cardstock
- Card envelope
Blank Botanical Garden Card
$5.00
Blank Botanical Garden Card
Blank Botanical Garden Card
$5.00- Blank interior
- 4"x"6 inches
- Heavy cardstock
- Card envelope
Blank Cherry Blossom Card
$5.00
Blank Cherry Blossom Card
Blank Cherry Blossom Card
$5.00- 4" x 6"
- Cherry blossom artwork
- Blank interior
- Card envelope
Blank Elephants Card
$5.00
Blank Elephants Card
Blank Elephants Card
$5.00
- Elephants art and blank interior.
- Printed on 4x6" heavyweight matte cardstock
- Card envelope
Blank Green Pearls Card
$5.00
Blank Green Pearls Card
Blank Green Pearls Card
$5.00- Blank Interior
- Printed on 6x4" heavy weight cardstock
- Card envelope
Blank Little Boat Card
$5.00
Blank Little Boat Card
Blank Little Boat Card
$5.00- 4x6" Little Boat card
- Blank interior
- Card envelope
Blank Panda Heart Card
$5.00
Blank Panda Heart Card
Blank Panda Heart Card
$5.00- 4x6" card on heavyweight matte cardstock
- Blank interior
- Card envelope
Blank Pink Cosmos Card
$5.00
Blank Pink Cosmos Card
Blank Pink Cosmos Card
$5.00- 4x6"
- Pink cosmos artwork
- Blank interior
- Card envelope
Blank Starry Ocean Card
$5.00
Blank Starry Ocean Card
Blank Starry Ocean Card
$5.00- Blank Interior
- Printed on 6x4" heavy weight cardstock
- Card envelope
Blank Tulips Card
$5.00
Blank Tulips Card
Blank Tulips Card
$5.00- 4x6" tulips art printed on heavyweight matte cardstock.
- Card envelope
Brave and Fascinating Card
$5.00
Brave and Fascinating Card
Brave and Fascinating Card
$5.00
Card text reads: You Are Brave & Fascinating & I Am Dazzled by You.
This message of ardent affection is from Em & Friends' debut collection of cards and journals by Elizabeth Gilbert, bestselling author of City of Girls and Eat Pray Love.
- Foil stamping, colored envelope, blank inside
- A2 size (4.25" x 5.5")
Broken Objects Card
$5.00
Broken Objects Card
Broken Objects Card
$5.00
Card text reads: In Japan, broken ovjects are often repaired with gold. The flaw is seen as a unique piece of the object's history, which adds to its beauty. Consider this when you feel broken.
Card by Em & Friends
- Foil stamping, blank inside
- A2 size (4.25" x 5.5") and matching envelope
Build Your Own Care Package
$0.00
Build Your Own Care Package
Build Your Own Care Package
$0.00Create a unique care package for your friends and loved ones with a wide variety of thoughtful items. Show your care and appreciation nearby or from afar.
Caregiver Support Package
$107.00
Caregiver Support Package
Caregiver Support Package
$107.00The Caregiver Support Package offers the recipient comfort and support with a mixture of thoughtful and useful gifts. Each included item is purposefully chosen to make life a little easier and to help the individual feel a little less alone.
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Anticipatory grief brochure
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Pocket garden coloring book
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Colored pencils and sharpener
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Facial sheet masks (2 count)
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Embroidery kit
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Dandelion Lotion bar
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Snack bar variety pack (6 ct)
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Tea sampler
- Personalized message of your choosing
- Gift Packaging
- Follow Up Card (sent 6-8 weeks after package delivery)
If you'd like to customize your own care package, visit our box builder.
Caregiver Support Package - Essentials
$63.00
Caregiver Support Package - Essentials
Caregiver Support Package - Essentials
$63.00The Caregiver Support Package - Essentials offers the recipient comfort and support with a mixture of thoughtful and useful gifts. Each included item is purposefully chosen to make life a little easier and to help the individual feel a little less alone.
- Anticipatory grief brochure
- Snack bar variety pack (6 ct)
- Tea sampler
- Pocket garden coloring book
- Colored pencils and sharpener
- Personalized message of your choosing
- Gift Packaging
- Follow Up Card (sent 6-8 weeks after package delivery)
If you'd like to customize your own care package, visit our box builder.
Caregiving Is Hard Card
$5.00
Caregiving Is Hard Card
Caregiving Is Hard Card
$5.00
Card text reads: Please let me be the first to kick the next person in the shins who says "You look exhausted." Caregiving is hard. You're doing an amazing job.
- Blank inside
- A2 size (4.25" x 5.5") card and envelope
- Printed in the USA on heavyweight matte stock
Catalina Felt Tip Pen
$4.00
Catalina Felt Tip Pen
Catalina Felt Tip Pen
$4.00Catalina Felt Tip Pens combine bold, precise strokes with a smooth writing experience, making them perfect for sketching and writing. These pens feature a 0.7 mm point that glides easily across the page, delivering rich black ink with quick-drying, non-bleeding properties for clean, legible writing. Features a soft touch pen case.
Cedar Soap Dish
$7.00
Cedar Soap Dish
Cedar Soap Dish
$7.00
Handcrafted in the US of 100% natural cedar wood, this soap dish allows water to drain away from the soap, preventing it from getting soft and allowing it to dry between uses.
As a note, cedarwood contains natural elements called tannins which give it its rich color. When first using the soap dish, these tannins may leech out from the wood leaving a reddish-brown residue behind which should be easily rinsed away. Over time, this leeching will cease.
Dimensions: 2.75” x 4”
Charge for gift packaging for large curated boxes
$7.00
Charge for gift packaging for large curated boxes
Charge for gift packaging for large curated boxes
$7.00Every package is individually prepared. Items are thoughtfully arranged to ensure safety during transit and so that the gift is aesthetically pleasing when the recipient opens it.
This charge per order covers our custom packaging, the personalized gift message, and the handwritten follow-up card sent 6-8 weeks after gift delivery.
Charge for gift packaging for medium curated boxes
$7.00
Charge for gift packaging for medium curated boxes
Charge for gift packaging for medium curated boxes
$7.00Every package is individually prepared. Items are thoughtfully arranged to ensure safety during transit and so that the gift is aesthetically pleasing when the recipient opens it.
This charge per order covers our custom packaging, the personalized gift message, and the handwritten follow-up card sent 6-8 weeks after gift delivery.
Charge for gift packaging, personalized message, and handwritten follow-up card
$7.00
Charge for gift packaging, personalized message, and handwritten follow-up card
Charge for gift packaging, personalized message, and handwritten follow-up card
$7.00Every package is individually prepared. Items are thoughtfully arranged to ensure safety during transit and so that the gift is aesthetically pleasing when the recipient opens it.
This charge per order covers our custom packaging, the personalized gift message, and the handwritten follow-up card sent 6-8 weeks after gift delivery.
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Example of sharing your pain in appropriate way: "Desi was such a positive light in my life. His humor brought me so much joy over the years. I will miss him terribly." Example of overshadowing the bereaved's pain: "This is the saddest thing that's ever happened to me — I don't know how I will get through this.”
Part of the impossibility of death is thinking that there are no new memories. Sharing a past tale that the recipient may have never heard can be such a wonderful gift.
People want to be sure that a loved one will not be forgotten, or that they will be carried forward even if they are no longer physically here. Sharing things like, "We will toast Susan on her birthday every year," or "I know Jacob felt most at peace at the beach. Whenever I visit the coast, I will take a moment to remember him."
Avoid (at all costs) 'call me if you need me' - this puts the burden of action on the person you are trying to help. Instead say, 'I will bring you dinner next week', or 'I can watch the kids for you on Friday morning' and follow up on your offer. If you are in a position to offer ongoing support, tell the person. For example, "I am home every Sunday afternoon. I would love to host your kids any week that you need a break."
Here are some common grief platitudes that are best to be avoided; Everything happens for a reason, I can't imagine what you're going through, They're in a better place, You wouldn't be given you more than you can handle, They are watching over you, Stay strong, God needed an angel, It could be worse, at least..
We created a sympathy card chatbot that will ask you a few questions and them produce a draft message for you.