Sibling Loss Resources
Siblings — as a fellow member of this "club" I have a special place in my being for all of you.
Here I will be sharing resources that may help you in the coming days (and weeks, months, years). Please contact us if you have ideas of books, podcasts, essays, groups, etc. that have been helpful to you. Unsurprisingly, resources dedicated to surviving siblings are sparse, but I hope you will find some of the support you need here.
BOOKS specific to sibling-loss (there aren't many 😕 )
Poor Your Soul by Mira Ptacin | in utero loss & child/sibling loss
Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief by Claire Bidwell Smith
It's OK You're Not OK by Megan Devine | A book that normalizes the grief experience. It will help you realize that whatever you're feeling is completely normal (and there's nothing wrong with you)
Modern Loss by Rebecca Soffer and Gabrielle Birkner | Collection of essays on all types of loss, but many focus on the loss of a parent (and Rebecca and Gabi have both lost two parents). ⠀
The Hot Young Widows Club by Nora McInerny | Don't let the name fool you because this is a book for everyone — for those living with grief and the grief adjacent. Based off the (very) popular Ted Talk 'We don't move on from grief, we move forward with it."
From Here to Eternity: Traveling The World to Find the Good Death by Caitlin Doughty | Caitlin has dedicated her career to demystifying death and also providing alternatives to the funeral industry. In her second book, she explores how different cultures approach death and their relationships with the deceased. Incredibly eye-opening, considering how death-phobic we are in the United States.
BOOKS for children
Lifetimes: The Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children by Bryan Mellonie and Robert Ingpen, for children aged 4+ | While this book's cover is a bit lacking, the illustrations inside are beautiful. Bryan describes life and death poetically and how it's a universal experience for every living thing (from plants to animals to people). This is the best children's book on death I've read.
Something Very Sad Happened by Bonnie Zucker, for children aged 2-4 | This book doesn't speak specifically to parent loss, but the message is universal and it's one of the only books geared towards very young children. The illustrations show a woman talking with a little boy about death, so if the child has lost their mother, you will want to preview the book and perhaps come up with an explanation (e.g., this little boy is talking to his aunt, or his mommy's friend, or another example that would make sense to the child).
Michael Rosen's Sad Book by Michael Rosen | any loss, ages 5+
The Goodbye Book by Todd Parr | any loss, 4-9
Eddie's Brave Journey by Randi Pearlman Wolfson
Mick Harte Was Here by Barbara Park | Sibling Loss, ages 10+
These Precious Little People by Frankie Brunker | a story on stillbirth, miscarriage, or infant loss for siblings, 3 - 8
@SurvivingOurSiblings — Takeover style story sharing for siblings living without their sibling(s)
Moving Beyond with Medium Fleur and Claire Bidwell Smith. An Interesting approach where podcast guests first meet with a grief therapist, and then have a reading with a Medium. Whether you believe in mediums or not, this will certainly be interesting.
This is Actually Happening | People share, at length, about their experience living through life's most difficult moments.
Modern Loss | Collection of Essays, resources, and advice on navigating life after loss
What’s Your Grief | Grief exploration and education - content created by two mental health professionals.
The Dinner Party | A virtual (and in non-COVID times, in person) support group for people in their 20-40s who have experienced loss. It's not specific to Parent-Loss, but most participants have experienced the death of a parent. Chapters are across the US.
The Compassionate Friends | The Compassionate Friends is a worldwide organization for siblings missing siblings and parents/grandparens missing children/grandchildren. They host private Facebook groups, in-person and virtual meetings, and (in non-COVID times), an annual conference.